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If You're Not Proactive, You're Reactive | Holiday Series

SHOW NOTES: Episode 40

I have another holiday series episode coming your way! Today, I am sharing more about being proactive versus reactive at family gatherings (or just in general!) I share the importance of taking responsibility for your own emotions and not expecting others to accommodate to you. Identifying our triggers and creating a plan to handle them is so important. Being proactive means identifying the people or situations that trigger negative reactions in us and coming up with a plan to handle them.

I can't stress enough the need for a proactive plan to break the habit of reacting negatively. It's about starting with small and manageable steps, such as practicing a simple response to a family member or coworker. Having a plan and being proactive is not just about managing our reactions, it's also key to having fulfilling relationships.

I also share a personal example on today’s episode on how I changed my reactive behavior to a proactive behavior as well.

I hope this episode is helpful to you as you navigate the holidays!

Let me know what you thought about today's episode! Send me a DM on Instagram @marandakirk or an email to


  • Proactive versus reactive behavior during the holidays and in relationships

  • Importance of taking responsibility for our own emotions

  • Identifying triggers and coming up with a plan to handle them

  • Starting with small and manageable steps

  • Having a plan in place to avoid reacting negatively

  • Taking care of our own emotions and treating people well


  • Check out last week's episode HERE.

  • Connect with me on Instagram: @marandakirk

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Life’s greatest joy and greatest pain come in our relationships with others.  God created us for relationships so it's no surprise that we learn best how to navigate them…together! 

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